Proper communication between partners is a crucial aspect that can make or break a relationship. While everyone probably knows the importance of good communication, many do not know what makes good communication. Communication is not simply speaking to your partner or listening to what they say.

Good communication is when you and your partner can freely discuss your feelings with each other, respect each other, listen tentatively to each other, and understand each other. Many things can help you and your partner improve communication in your marriage.

Right Time and Place

If you want to talk to your partner about something, try to find the best time and place to initiate the conversation. This can be a time where you both are rested, calm, and not distracted.

Do Not Accuse

If you want to talk to your partner about something they may have said or done, it is best that you do not use language that directly accuses your partner. The best way to approach this is by letting your partner how you feel about what they did by beginning the conversation with, for example, “I feel hurt when you…”

Listening

Good communication is not only about speaking your mind. It is also important to give your partner the chance to talk about whatever they want and listen carefully to what they say. Pay attention to what your partner is saying and try to understand their point of view.

Make Face to Face

The best way to communicate with your spouse is doing it face to face, so if you have something to say to your partner, wait until you can do so face to face instead of sending a text or calling their phone. This applies if you want to share good news with your spouse as it helps build positivity between you two.

Ask Questions

One of the most things that can hurt good communication is misunderstanding and making assumptions. The good news is that both can be avoided by simply asking questions. If you do not understand why your partner did or said something, tell them that you do not understand and ask for an explanation. Asking questions is also a great way to keep communication lines open and for starting conversations.

Be Positive

Good communication is not strictly about discussing the negative aspects of your life. Praising your partner, showing gratitude, and expressing love are all important parts of good communication that help you have healthy communication with your spouse.

Be Honest

Any form of communication that is not based on honesty cannot be sustained, so the best way to establish good communication is to agree with your partner that you both will always be honest about everything you discuss.